I have recently met a new guy. We seem to have some common interests and there is a definite physical attraction between us. He is keen to explore the possibility of us ‘cementing’ (his phrase) our friendship into a ‘concrete relationship’ (his terminology again). But I am wary. Twelve months ago, a five year relationship […]
Two identities in the local community are releasing books this month. Graham Douglas-Meyer, leader of the Freedom 2 Be group, is publishing his autobiography ‘You Shall Walk in the Dark Places’ which explores his personal journey of embracing his sexuality while maintaining his spirituality. Douglas-Meyer’s book asks the central question, can you be gay and […]
I am in the second year of my first live-in relationship. It took me a while to commit and agree to live with my partner. I was hesitant to take this step because of previous relationships that caused me stress and, at times, anger and then grief. I do love my partner and I do […]
“I am having a great deal of difficulty in coming to an agreement with my new partner about finances. In my previous relationship, this was not an issue. We pooled our finances and then it was my job to pay the bills and do the budgeting. It worked well; that’s what I was used to […]
Driven David Asks My partner and I have been together for nearly seven years. We are both intelligent and have responsible positions in our workplaces. We have similar and separate interests and, whilst we acknowledge that this is the ideal, we do experience some deep conflict around same. I love my partner and do not […]
Guilty Gil writes; I am quite confused and, at times, angry. My partner and I have been together now for about 5 years. I know that our friends would describe our relationships as nearly perfect. We have similar interests and do things together and, at the same time, give each other some freedom to do […]
Baffled Asks… My ex-girlfriend has recently begun going out with a man, I’m so surprised because she’s always been 100% lesbian. I’m not sure what’s happened for her to take this radical step, I want to be happy but I’m not sure this is the best decision. I empathize with your surprise and possible confusion. […]
My boyfriend and I broke up amicably after five years together. While we’re fine leading our separate lives, I’ve realized that our break up is challenging for our mutual friends. People now make sure that we’re not invited to the same parties and when we catch up they never mention him, even though I know […]
I met my girlfriend about seven months ago and it was instant love on both sides. She has a teenage daughter and has been on her own for about five years. These months have been just amazing! We never fought, gave each other everything and started to talk about moving in together. I can’t […]
My partner keeps accusing me of criticising him. There are things that he does that I don’t like and sometimes it annoys me. But don’t I have the right to tell him when this happens? Why should he think that I’m criticising him? John Gottman, of the renowned Gottman Relationship Institute, says that certain kinds […]
